Social opinion holds that men are logical and analytical, using facts and rational arguments to advance conversation using exchange of information. Emotional considerations are not held to be present, or if they are, they are held to be unseemly. Precision is esteemed of paramount importance.
But this is factual precision.
What of emotional precision?
Men often retreat to logic when communicating with women, especially in emotionally distressing situations. However, men absolutely will argue vehementally and quite irrationally about other topics they feel they know something about. Like fishing, computers or motorcycles.
Emotional Precision
Words are generally inadequate conveyors of emotion. By that I mean stating the emotion as a word is not likely to induce or transmit an emotion. If this were not the case, emotional issues could be simply fixed by having emotionally distressed people read a word. Depressed? Want to be happy? Fine. Read this word: Happy!
Doesn’t work.
Instead, using words to convey emotions requires creating a mental scene, possibly using rhetorical devices such as metaphor and exaggeration. The extent to which rhetorical devices work depends both on the imagination and skill of the writer, and on the nature of the target audience.
Facets of Communication
Consider a gemstone in the rough, just out of the ground. Perhaps it was mined and covered with surrounding “country rock.” Perhaps it tumbled in a stream for eons, resembling nothing more than a rough pebble. Until this rough pebble is cut and polished, it’s brilliance and attraction cannot be appreciated. Facets on a gemstone may appear different when viewed from different directions, but always reflect the gemstone itself.
Likewise, adding a new “facet” to one’s repertoire of social skills does not require any more internal changes other than a willingness to believe there is more to life than what one currently experiences, along with the willingness to act on it.
For men, especially men highly trained in intellectual fields such as mathematics, engineering and the sciences, a willingness to simply open one’s eyes to the existence of an “emotional precision” is a first step towards allowing this facet of one’s personality to flower. For example, flirting stimulates attraction in a very large number of women. Flirting can be learned. It’s not hard.
When interacting socially with attractive women, male logic must be reserved as an emotional trump, to be used only when necessary.
Modern, Western women have a vast number of intellectually available men at their fingertips. Men who would be delighted to spend hours upon hours discussing all manner of topics in rational, logic terms. These kinds of discussions bring a lot of emotional pleasure to men, especially since having such discussions with women are rather rare.
For women, such discussion being more commonplace, they are of lesser interest. Worse, unless such discussion can stimulate the woman emotionally, it bores her. Women rarely get emotional satisfaction from simply exchanging facts in the way of men.
This is an observable fact. You don’t have to believe my assertion. Just go out and exchange facts with as many women as you can, and report back with your results.
